It is hard being a student, not only do you need to balance your social life but also make sure that your academics are good. All of this is for that time when you leave university and join the working class. Applications always ask us the same question which is “why we deserve recognition?” and because of insecurities due to the fact that we aren’t part of the chosen ones, we start campaigning on why we should be chosen. We try to prove ourselves by naming everything that we have done, little or none, since the day we started school in the hopes that we are good enough. I have seen this stage take a huge part of all of my sisters’ confidence. I grew up in a family that challenged traditional gender roles, with my mother constantly travelling for work my father assumed the role traditionally reserved for mothers. This has had a very positive influence in the way my sisters and I see ourselves and the role we play in society. My father instilled an ideology that as girls we could do whatever we aspired to. Not only was this done through words but also through actions as how he allowed my mother to fulfil her dreams even if it meant he would be taking care of five girls on his own five days a week. Because of what I saw growing up with my mother, learning different cultures and her coming back home and telling us stories on how the people of South Africa are in different parts the country, and how they differ from the one’s she has seen across the world. I would say I’m a much more imaginative adult. It is these moments when I think about my parents that I realise that it’s not only about the marks or merit certificates you have attained it is also about what has been instilled in your heart and in your brain that makes you exceptional.